This journey we call life can really sucks sometimes. It really can. And people who tell you otherwise are lying.
At one time or another we’ve all experienced disappointment, failure, fear and despair. We all know what it feels like to not get promotion we wanted, to have our heart broken, to be let down and to lose someone we cherished. It truly sucks.
And let’s admit it, when things don’t go our way, sometimes it feels REALLY good to wallow in our disappointment and misery. In a weird way, wallowing feels warm and comfortable. It’s a place we know. Like an old friend, it’s familiar and allows us to indulge ourselves. It understands us really well.
But let’s not fool ourselves, my friends.
You know what else misery does REALLY well? It starves our soul. It eats away at our spirit, our existence and our potential.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that feeling miserable after a disappointing event is a bad thing, because it’s not. It’s normal. Allowing yourself to wallow for a while and feel (really FEEEEEEL) is an important part of healing. But what’s dangerous is allowing failure, fear and despair to infuse your entire being. The longer you allow this to happen, the harder it will be to get out of the funk. Put another way, the longer wallowing becomes your default position, the harder it is to press the restart button.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to live a life that’s devoid of joy and wonder and laughter!
So, what do you do next time you’re feeling as though life has dealt you a nasty blow? Start by asking yourself these questions:
1. What’s the silver lining in all this for me (trust me, there’s ALWAYS a silver lining!)?
2. What’s the lesson I need to learn?
3. What aspects of my life bring me joy?
4. What can I do to focus more on the joy in my life rather than the disappointment I’m feeling right now?
Whatever is you want in this life, believe me when I say, focusing on JOY and positivity rather than despair, stacks the odds in your favour towards you achieving your goals.
I can’t guarantee that you’ll never be disappointed, hurt or upset again, but I CAN guarantee that if you let misery ‘win’, the likelihood of achieving whatever you want in this life will dramatically decrease. There’re no ands, ifs, or buts about it. It’s simply the truth!
It’s not always easy to ‘turn a smile upside down’, but if you start looking for the hope, peace and joy in every situation, there’s a good chance disappointments that come your way in the future won’t feel so debilitating.
You deserve to live a life that’s full of everything that’s good, positive and fulfilling. So, don’t let set-backs define your life. Let joy guide your journey. Start today!